Podcast: Elvis Presley – Are You Lonesome Tonight

Is your heart filled with pain?

Shall I come back again?

Tell me dear, are you lonesome tonight?

Are You Lonesome Tonight, sung by Elvis Presley

Hi, this is Thanh Dinh, and welcome back to another episode of the Radio of Resistance, where we, no matter what happens, believe that there will always be something left to love in this world.

Unfortunately, or really, fortunately, there are no heavy books nor depressive poems to discuss this week. I was just sitting there brainstorming for a perfect episode this week and the song was still on. So there you have it: a not so pretty decision on how I will discuss Elvis Presley’s “Are You Lonesome Tonight” for today’s podcast episode.

You know, I came across Elvis Presley’s “Are You Lonesome Tonight” once, when I was struck by the beauty of the moon and took a step down the abyss too quickly. And though the abyss was beautiful, and though only by lying underneath it, I can truly see how sad and lonely the moon was beneath all her beauty, I swore to myself I would never do it again.

But listen to Elvis’s “Are You Lonesome Tonight”? That I still do. Not religiously. But when the song comes on randomly on a moonlit night on my playlist, I let it bring me back to the same abyss.

Do the chairs in your parlor seem empty and bare?
Do you gaze at your doorstep and picture me there?

Are You Lonesome Tonight, sung by Elvis Presley

I had fallen in love once, when I heard Elvis’s“Are You Lonesome Tonight.” And the time I had fallen out of that love, I had cried listening to Elvis’s “Are You Lonesome Tonight.” Till this day, many things had changed. I moved out of the old apartment, so the chairs in the parlor are no longer there. The doorstep had been painted a new shade of white. The lightbulb in front of the doorstep had been broken far too many times and I just refused to change it. The new apartment has a night balcony where I can place a night couple of chairs there. A set of coffee table, perhaps. But I don’t.

I guess all I ever did was just that. Running away from the moonlit abyss. Running away from the empty and bare chairs in the apartment’s parlor. Running away from the familiar shadow under the lightbulb at the doorstep.

And I must say, I have never been quite successful with it.

Honey, you lied when you said you loved me
And I had no cause to doubt you.
But I’d rather go on hearing your lies
Than go on living without you.

Are You Lonesome Tonight, sung by Elvis Presley

I remember the time when I read Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s “Of Love and Other Demons.” There is so much to talk about it that I believe I must devote a whole episode to discuss that novel. But here, within the frame of this episode, I will just discuss how love could not save anything.

The next part might contain spoiler of the novel, so if you don’t want to hear it, you may fast forward to the part where I return to the moonlit abyss.

So, “Of Love and Other Demons.” How is it relevant here when I used the quotes above from “Are You Lonesome Tonight”?

It is because when I reach the ending of the novel, when the little girl, who believe that the young priest who had confessed his love for her will try his best to save her from the torture of the church, can finally be saved by love. But as with all of Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s novels, and as with all that happens in life, the secret passage leading to the girl’s room was blocked by a wall. The girl was, thus, taken away and killed by the church’s horrendous exorcism, leaving the young priest on the other side of the wall, scratching at the walls, hoping that by sheer will, he can take the wall down.

I always think it’s strange. How we always know that love can never save anything. How, by instinct, we know that the words of love spoken to us are almost all filthy lies. And yet, we all choose to go on believing in it, living on it, building a house with it as our foundation.

Because I’d rather go on hearing your lies, than go on living without you.

Once when I was still a young student, I made an intelligent mistake by taking a Psychology 101 class, which I believe I had mentioned once before in one of the episodes. Pulling an all nighter reading the chapters for the classess, I still remembered the part where they said being single brought about as much happiness as being married.

I have very little knowledge on how they conduct the experiment, nor how they come up with the result. After all, I am far from a perfect Psychology student. You can see it in the way I never take another psychology class during my university years.

But all things aside, if there is one thing I know for certain, from the many lives I see passing by and the many lives staying, is that human is an extremely lonely creature.

So like what they say in a song. I don’t like to sleep alone; it’s sad to think some folks do.

Once, when my mom and my sister had to come back to Vietnam before me, and I had to stay alone in the two-bedroom apartment filled with the memories of human connections, it’s obvious to say that I rarely stay there. I hung around the nearby mall from the opening hour till the closing hour, then I went to the nearby coffee shop, where, at that time, the owner opened 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. And I would stay there, waiting for the warm coffee to turn cold, watching people come and leave, until my eyes tired out. Then I would cross the park and sit on the cold bench, watching the waning moon on the dawning sky.

During that period, I didn’t sleep much. I just let life tires me out, like normal people my age do when they get lonely. Because even if I get sad, even if I get hurt, or even if the empty and bare chairs at my apartment keep reminding me of the jump down the moonlit abyss, there’s no one there to save me. Either from myself, or from the memories that were threatening to pull me down the abyss again.

So I don’t know if being single would really bring about as much happiness as being married. Judging from the marriages I know, which is not that many, I would say it does make some sense.

But the part of me who still lied down at the abyss, looking up at the sad and desolate moon, seeing all her beauty and sadness, still think of a happiness in marriage. A compromise of some sort. Not the kind of compromise where one needs to go on hearing lies because one doesn’t want to go on living without the other. Nor the kind of compromise where one is dying on the exorcist bed while one is scratching forever at the wall, hoping love can save something – anything – from the cruelity of itself and of other demons.

I am talking about a compromise where even if love was lost, I hold onto the agony, watching you leave, and wishing that you can find someone else who can love you as much as I did love you[1].

Or the kind of compromise where you can just leave, because I am a madman in the garden of love and a drunkard on the roadside: a madman doesn’t know sadness and a drunkard can hardly remember anything[2].

Or the kind of compromise where:

Now the stage is bare and I’m standing there
With emptiness all around
And if you won’t come back to me
Then make them bring the curtain down.

Are You Lonesome Tonight, sung by Elvis Presley

And just so you know, I am still under the abyss, waiting. I never tell anyone to bring the curtain down. Not that I believe that the “you” in Elvis’s song will come back: that is far too optimistic, even for someone like me. I am just enjoying the abyss. Or as my therapist puts it, I am afraid that once I bring the curtain down, once I climb back on, I fear that I will have to jump again.

It seems to me you are running away, he says to me, under a thick layer of mask. And since our time is up, I can’t tell him that we are all running away. Be it me or him or anyone else. We are all running away in our own way. We know that we will have to bring the curtain down. We know that we will have to climb up the abyss. But just for a little while, as we are tired out, and while the blue is so blue and the green is so green, while the moon is still sad and desolate on the star-lit sky, let we run away. Let we lie here. Let we take a break from being the strong us, the never broken us, the willful us, the undestroyable us. Let the moon take us in her bosom.

Let us be weak.

Once I read Alice Munro’s “Runaway,” and the most impressive sentence that still remains within with me was how the poet’s widow was sorry for mistaking the female protagonist’s happiness for her freedom. And coincidentally, recently, when I listen to Elain Page’s “Don’t Cry For Me Argentina,” there is the line, “I chose freedom.”

And so, it seems freedom and happiness are not so closely co-related as I imagined. So if you are still trapped inside that empty and bare apartment, waiting, longing; if you are still standing on the bare stage and getting ready to tell them to bring the curtain down, do remember, you have the choice.

Like how the father in “Of Love and Other Demons” said, though it might be true that love can save everything, it’s best if you don’t believe in it.

It’s all in your hands. You can choose to go on hearing the lies, and you can also choose to walk away. You can choose freedom as much as you can choose happiness. You can choose to believe in the power of love as much as not to believe in it.

And though it might be true, that humans are the most lonesome creatures on this Earth, we also have a powerful imagination to combat against it. As children, we fight against the night with tales from far, far away countries’ princesses and princes. As adults, we fight against the loneliness with the moonlit sky, a one-person waltz as Chopin is blasting in our apartment, a one-night-only performance of Cher’s song.

It seems to me you are running away, my therapist says.

No, I say to him, you know what else I call it? I call it doing everything to survive.

So bring out the dancers in you. Bring out the singers in you. Bring out everything in you. Because as a human race, we have survive the First World War. We have survive the Second World War. And though there is still a war for equality happening outside our windows at the very moment, there is nothing to say that we won’t survive this, too.

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To any fighter who has made it to the end of today’s podcast, thank you for your continuation support. This is Thanh Dinh, and you are listening to the Radio of Resistance.


[1] Dù Tình Yêu Đã Mất, sung by Khánh Ly

[2] Mùa Đông Của Anh, sung by Khánh Ly

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